I understand, that self-critical thoughts can be overwhelming. They can consume your day and make it difficult to focus on anything else, but these negative thoughts can harm you in multiple ways. Self-criticism can be an ongoing dialogue inside your head. Most of the thoughts focus on flaws, whether actual or perceived. Sometimes the thoughts start after a critical comment from another person. In rare cases, self-criticism can be useful. It may increase humbleness and provide a way to evaluate mistakes.

However, most of the time, self-criticism creates unnecessary pain and suffering.

Self-critical thoughts can increase the risk of depression, anxiety, stress, and other mental health issues. They also weaken your self-esteem and confidence.




…but I’ve seen cases when female gatherings changed to self-pity party. What you say about yourself to your girlfriends is one thing, but what you think about yourself and how you talk to yourself is what matters the most. If you have a bad habit of talking to yourself negatively, sadly enough, you will never be able to build your confidence.


If you started to think right now – Oh, I’m sabotaging my confidence with negative self-talk, why am I so stupid? Stop right away! This shouldn’t be just another item on your blame list rather a friendly reminder that this is important as well and a few steps how to get back on track. Or at least how to get a little closer to your confident self.


Let’s start with “I am not enough.” It’s one of the most common self-critical thoughts. How to overcome it? Understand where this negative thought come from. Why do you feel like you are not enough? The first step is to get to the root of this thought.

So, please take a paper and a pen. On the top of a new blank page write I am not enough and examine your feelings. Consider your past. Why do you feel you are never enough? Where do these feelings come from?

In many cases, the roots of this self-critical thought can be found in the past. Dysfunctional families, difficult childhoods, traumas, and illnesses can make you feel less worthy.


But those are just two, and you may have many different types of self-critical thoughts affecting your confidence. Remember, you are your own unique combination of characteristics, shaped by past and present experiences. This unique identity and history affect the type of self-critical thoughts that are in your head.




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