Last Tuesday I came home in the evening, sat down in our dining room and started thinking. Something is not right wih me. I woke up at 4:30 a.m. that day to cook turkey breast with vegetable for my lunch. Because I didn’t have the time the day before.

This would be great. But during the day, I couldn’t resist and went buy myself a chocolate bar. I know I can’t do that because my body produces too much insulin and it can be dangerous for me. It also makes me sick to my stomach. But as I’ve said I couldn’t resist and bought one for myself and ate it right away.

Sitting there exhausted from the early morning cooking and stomach cramps I realized that it was completely useless to get up at 4:30 a.m. and cook for myself if I was going to eat a chocolate bar. I could rather sleep until 5:30 and then get lunch somewhere. That would be less of a health problem for me. Or I could get up at 4:30 a.m. cook for myself, be proud of myself for taking the effort and not eating any chocolate bar or anything like that.

But I took the effort but then made a wrong decision.

I know how this is called.


I realized that after everything I went through, I still sabotage myself on some occasions.

Luckily, I know that overcoming self-sabotaging behavior is one of the key elements to building confidence and success so a whole part of Your Jaw-Dropping Confidence Master Plan is about that.

And I want to share a part of it today.

Because it’s needed.

And because I need revising as well.




…self-sabotage is complicated because there’s usually some element of temporary relief, short-term payoff, or avoidance of something negative initially in the process.


Self-sabotage becomes easier over time.

Self-defeating behaviors cause unintended consequences.

Any positive results of self-sabotage are short-term.

Regular self-sabotage drastically alters your life.


1.Acknowledge that you engage in self-sabotage.

The first, very important step is to admit to yourself that you have a challenge before you can do anything to change it.

2. Write out how you self-sabotage.

This exercise will feel like you’re cleaning out the clutter of a closet, only it’s your mind and emotions you’re sorting through instead. Keep thinking and writing until you’ve listed all the ways you engage in self-defeating behaviors. 

Next, put down specific incidents where you recognize that your thoughts, choices, or behaviors were self-defeating. Go back for at least the last year or two.


Rather than put yourself down, give yourself some props for making it this far and for recognizing your self-defeating ways. Keep reminding yourself that

you’re letting go of the old style of living where you lacked confidence and determination. Make a decision to believe in yourself again.



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