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Episode 12: Jess Tomlinson ON visibility, self-expression and holding on to expectations

By |2019-10-02T08:00:44+02:00October 1st, 2019|PODCAST|

 

In today’s interview, I would like to introduce a very special guest. Jess Tomlinson. I am so honored that she accepted the invitation to come for an interview. She is a gorgeous and sweet person and we can learn a lot from her so make sure to stick around till the end of the interview.

Jess Tomlinson is a visibility, leadership and business coach and intuitive guide for women entrepreneurs, creatives and influencers who have learned all the systems and strategies, yet are feeling disconnected from themselves and want to feel like a kid on Christmas morning again in business and life! With over 10 years leading branding and marketing for award-winning media and travel companies, she brings her skills plus intuition to support her clients in releasing how they think they “should” operate in business and instead become the truest embodiment of themselves as evolving Visible Leaders – Radiantpreneurs.

Jess has been featured for her expert advice on multiple media interviews including NPR alongside renowned spiritual teacher Byron Katie and on live TV. She was also named one of Las Vegas’ top 5 Empowered Women Entrepreneurs and has produced 3 TEDxWomen events.

She lives with her sexy videographer Soul Partner, Ben, in Las Vegas where they spend their time hiking, sipping vino (Jess) and whiskey (Ben), playing cribbage and planning their next travel adventure.

 

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My specialty is leadership and visibility and what that means is really be able to fully express all sides of ourselves as a leader, as a visionary in our businesses so that we can not only be visible and really magnetize who we are meant to serve but more so what I care about is how you feel each and every day, when you get up are you worried about what people are gonna think about you? Are you hiding behind your computer instead of doing that Facebook live or sharing about your amazing story cause you are afraid of xyz…

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What I really support women leaders and entrepreneurs in doing is setting themselves free from needing to be a certain way so that no matter how they’re feeling no matter what they are going through, no matter the day they can really step into their authentic self-expression. I teach these three different archetypes which I call feminine leadership archetypes. There are so many different parts of ourselves but I find it’s really helpful to categorize these 3 parts so that we can begin to own them and to not deny them. The three feminine leadership archetypes are the Playful Child, the Radiant Rebel, and the Sexy Feminine.

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You have to release how you think you should be showing up, the kind of offering that you think you should be doing, the strategy….my clients usually have taken lots of courses, they’re very smart, learned lots of information and yet all of this information is bogging them down so they need to release what is not serving them and really come home, which is the reveal – the phase two – is reveal – what are the parts of you that you are not sharing, how can you set yourself free and embrace and heal and love those parts of yourself?

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The caterpillar effect is this whole concept that like a caterpillar who has to first really surrender to the process of transformation. Can you imagine that if the caterpillar didn’t surrender to this process of recreating from a caterpillar into a butterfly and it stayed so attached to wanting to be a caterpillar it would never turn in to this beautiful creature that it’s meant to be? And so that is an analogy for us as leaders as women who wanna make a difference. If we hold on to these expectations who we think we are and often times they’re really high expectations of ourselves that don’t serve us to continue to make the stakes and to try things and we hold such high standards that we create a non-winning game for ourselves and life becomes really hard and really not fun and we’re constantly beating ourselves up if we don’t release these expectations.

 

Connect with Jess:

Website: http://jessicatomlinson.com
Instagram: http://instagram.com/radiantpreneur
Facebook: http://facebook.com/radiantpreneur
Facebook group: http://facebook.com/groups/radiantpreneurs
FREE guide ~ 4 Phases to Becoming the Truest Embodiment of YOU as a Radiant Feminine Entrepreneur: http://jessicatomlinson.com/guide

 

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Episode 11: Martina Sevcikova ON career change, wedding and confidence

By |2019-09-24T17:57:45+02:00September 24th, 2019|PODCAST|

 

I promised that I will bring you awesome guests on this podcast – strong women that build their confidence. So, today is the day and the first guest is here with us.

So, let me tell you. Today’s guest is incredible. She is a friend of mine for many many years and she is a sweet person who you will love. Her name is Martina Sevcikova, and I call her Matka. She is an incredibly strong woman who recently changed her job from a sure-fire corporate career where she belonged among the best to a part-time job in a small company to have some free time to follow her dreams and acquire the lifestyle she wants to have.

I believe it requires a huge amount of confidence to make such a decision so I want to talk to her about it – whether it was a difficult decision for her and whether she struggled with confidence. So let’s get into it.

 

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It was a feeling I had for a longer period of time that I need a change and then if you remember last year in August I was in Bratislava with you and we agreed that you show me how you do coaching and we had this talk and that was the moment that I realized that I had to do something to change my situation, to achieve what I want and I realized that my current job is not that thing that I want in the future. It helped me.

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One thing was more practical – I had to wake up every day pretty early, I had to commute and this commuting was pretty long, it took a lot of time and of course, a lot of energy. Then, I spent quite a lot of hours at work and when I came back I was tired and not able to do other things which I wanted to do, so this was one thing – the time. Then, other things were that of course that job was demanding. It was sometimes pretty stressful and there were also other reasons… I knew I want to achieve something different in my future.

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Yes, of course, I was scared… I had to think a lot about it. I did several SWOT analyses…It’s strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats analysis. Then I did an analysis of pros and cons and really I thought a lot about it and of course I thought about how to do it because this job opportunity came a bit later but then when this opportunity came I decided that OK, now it’s the right time to do it.

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I would recommend to think it through, to set a target and to plan the way how to achieve it. To plan what tools and means and everything need to be used to achieve the target and of course, it’s best to have somebody who supports you in achieving your goal.  

 

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Episode 10: Learn to Love Yourself – Part 2

By |2019-09-10T21:13:26+02:00September 10th, 2019|PODCAST|

 

Hey there, friends. Welcome to part 2 of learning to love yourself. In the previous episode last week, we were talking about loving yourself emotionally and spiritually and I shared my struggle with loving myself. If you haven’t listened to the episode last week go back to it right now – it’s better to start there and then continue with this episode.

In this episode, we will talk about loving yourself mentally and physically. We will add another 19 steps to those 20 from part 1. Together you will have 39 steps to apply in order to love yourself, but no worries some of them are very simple, some of them you already do and of course, you don’t need to apply all of them since day one. Start with the one you like and once it feels natural, add a second one. Small changes that will stick are much better than big changes that are overwhelming and you drop them early.

 

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When you spend your time and thoughts on working toward your goals, your mind will be at its happiest and most fit. Plus, this sort of work shows that you care enough about yourself to have your priorities in good order.

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Ask yourself, “What do I care intensely about?”

Then, dive into that subject. Learn everything you can about it. Practice it. Study it. Live it. If an idea or topic excites you, chase after it. The same goes for your dreams. Once you know what your hearts’ desires are, do everything you can to achieve them.

Stay engaged on a daily basis with your life’s passions and dreams. There’s no better way to express self-love than to strive to give yourself what you truly want in life.

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When you live intentionally, you intellectually consider the consequences of the choices you make. You recognize how precious time is and mindfully spend the twenty-four hours you get in a day on what’s most important to you. Now that’s real self-love.

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When you see that you have control over your own mind, you’ll be provided with opportunities to do as you wish with your life. In other words, you’ll get to exercise the power you have in ways that enrich your existence.

Closely related to finding your power is infusing knowledge into your daily life. When you gain knowledge, you gain power. Accessing the power you have in your mind means you’ll experience self-confidence and feel love for yourself each day.

Loving yourself means you seek, find and experience all types of mental stimulation. You look into topics of interest, maintain real friendships with real people, live consciously each day, consider the bigger picture, and find the power within you.

Express your self-love by feeding your mind with intriguing thoughts, ideas, and activities.

 

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Episode 9: Learn to Love Yourself – Part 1

By |2019-09-03T14:01:39+02:00September 3rd, 2019|PODCAST|

 

I remember hearing so many times – you first need to love yourself only then you love someone else. First, you need to help yourself only then you can help others. But loving myself? It felt so unnatural. In my mind loving myself was connected to being selfish and it just felt – I don’t know – not right to me. It felt like something I didn’t want to deal with. Something that was not on the priority list.

By doing this I sabotaged my confidence. It wasn’t until I met my coach Olga, who I already mentioned in the previous episodes and who really gave my life a perspective, when I realized that by not loving myself and by treating myself too strictly I stop myself from everything I want from my life. Just a simple example. I used to set unrealistic goals. I thought that if others can do it, I must be able to do it as well.

Then, I didn’t reach the goal for obvious reasons like the one that you can’t work 16 hours a day and still be creative and productive. Or that you have family and you have to take care of members of your family. Or that you get sick and then you simply can’t work. I was mad at myself – for spending time with family and not spending time with family when I was working. For being sick. For almost everything.

 

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By learning to love yourself you learn how to be your best friend – the one you can trust and rely on, the one that supports you no matter what, the one that is for life. And believe me, every one of us needs a friend like that.

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Realize that you’re as important, special and worthy as every other human being on earth. Connect deeply with this reality. Use this as an affirmation: “I am important, special and worthy.”

Try saying the affirmation out loud. Repeat it. Write it down. Then, read it to yourself. Do this twice per day, once in the morning and once in the evening. Watch for subtle shifts in the way you view yourself.

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Often, we try to find external reasons for why something happened, such as, “Why does he keep hurting me?” or, “What makes him think I deserve this treatment?”

Instead, take responsibility. Ask yourself, “Since I’m responsible for myself, what do I need to do right now to change this situation for me?”

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Take a little time in the morning to do something you really like to do. It might be 45 minutes of yoga to start your day off right. Maybe you’d like to read your favorite novel for 15 minutes before the kids get up.

Or perhaps 10 minutes to practice meditation would give you the restful start you need to have a good day.

Give yourself the gift of the first few minutes of each morning. Your whole day will be better, and your soul will thank you for that little bit of “me time” when you first arise.

 

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Episode 8: 13 Steps to Stop Self-Sabotage

By |2019-08-28T20:52:59+02:00August 28th, 2019|PODCAST|

 

Last Tuesday I came home in the evening, sat down in our dining room and started thinking. Something is not right wih me. I woke up at 4:30 a.m. that day to cook turkey breast with vegetable for my lunch. Because I didn’t have the time the day before.

This would be great. But during the day, I couldn’t resist and went buy myself a chocolate bar. I know I can’t do that because my body produces too much insulin and it can be dangerous for me. It also makes me sick to my stomach. But as I’ve said I couldn’t resist and bought one for myself and ate it right away.

Sitting there exhausted from the early morning cooking and stomach cramps I realized that it was completely useless to get up at 4:30 a.m. and cook for myself if I was going to eat a chocolate bar. I could rather sleep until 5:30 and then get lunch somewhere. That would be less of a health problem for me. Or I could get up at 4:30 a.m. cook for myself, be proud of myself for taking the effort and not eating any chocolate bar or anything like that.

But I took the effort but then made a wrong decision.

I know how this is called.

Self-sabotage.

I realized that after everything I went through, I still sabotage myself on some occasions.

Luckily, I know that overcoming self-sabotaging behavior is one of the key elements to building confidence and success so a whole part of Your Jaw-Dropping Confidence Master Plan is about that.

And I want to share a part of it today.

Because it’s needed.

And because I need revising as well.

 

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…self-sabotage is complicated because there’s usually some element of temporary relief, short-term payoff, or avoidance of something negative initially in the process.

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Self-sabotage becomes easier over time.

Self-defeating behaviors cause unintended consequences.

Any positive results of self-sabotage are short-term.

Regular self-sabotage drastically alters your life.

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1.Acknowledge that you engage in self-sabotage.

The first, very important step is to admit to yourself that you have a challenge before you can do anything to change it.

2. Write out how you self-sabotage.

This exercise will feel like you’re cleaning out the clutter of a closet, only it’s your mind and emotions you’re sorting through instead. Keep thinking and writing until you’ve listed all the ways you engage in self-defeating behaviors. 

Next, put down specific incidents where you recognize that your thoughts, choices, or behaviors were self-defeating. Go back for at least the last year or two.

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Rather than put yourself down, give yourself some props for making it this far and for recognizing your self-defeating ways. Keep reminding yourself that

you’re letting go of the old style of living where you lacked confidence and determination. Make a decision to believe in yourself again.

 

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