Episode 3: How I Developed Social Phobia

By |2019-07-16T18:51:10+02:00July 16th, 2019|PODCAST|

 

I was a shy child who was trying to do its best to do everything a good child would do. I studied hard in school. I helped my parents at home. I listened to the elderly. I was not rebellious or stubborn. I studied English and social sciences. I went to University to study law.

I got a part-time job as an assistant to the attorney. I got my first mortgage during the university years for my studio apartment. I traveled to the USA during summers for work and travel program for students. In the last year of University, I started to work for a big advisory company, and I applied for J.D. exam. I was working overtimes and Saturdays and studying and writing my thesis on Sundays.

Shy girl with low self-confidence who didn’t trust in her own choices and opinions.

Within a few months of life in a Chicago studio apartment without seeing my family and friends my confidence dropped to the lowest level possible and I was not able to go shopping alone because I didn’t have enough confidence to face talk with a stranger or a cashier in the supermarket.

I developed social phobia and I had to come up with a plan.

What plan?

Listen to the third episode to learn more.

 

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I am behind the door, trash bag in my right hand, door handle in my left hand. Left ear on the door, heart beating…

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But, when I think of how I felt. I felt horrible and I didn’t even realize it. I didn’t have the confidence to do what I wanted to do. To be who I am. To speak up my mind. My low self-confidence didn’t allow me to rely on my own opinions. I thought that this how I am supposed to be living and this is who I am.

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One day, out of nothing my very dear friend called. We chatted for a little while and then he said that he has cancer.

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Waiting for my flight back to Chicago I made a promise to myself – that I will do what it takes to become confident in my own life and my skin. That I will no longer be that shy and scared girl hiding in a small apartment.

 

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Episode 2: From Dream Life to Nightmare

By |2019-07-16T17:54:10+02:00July 9th, 2019|PODCAST|

 

About 4 or 5 years ago, I was at a place where I had a life someone might call a dream life.

I had an onset of a very promising career. I worked as an assistant to the tax advisor in a huge international advisory company.

The problem was that I was working nights and weekends to keep up with the workload and I didn’t have much personal life. Another thing was that I didn’t see much value in it – my job wasn’t helping anyone.

No matter how pretty on the outside I struggled to find my place. To be honest, I didn’t like working in the office. I felt like taxation is not the right fit for me. I dreamed of traveling the world.

I wanted to be in flip-flops and swimsuit not tied up with a skirt, fake smiles and billable hours. My desire was to figure out the right job for me. I wanted to be successful and make money, but this didn’t feel like it is the right way.

Then, it all changed. I quit my job and left the country.

Why?

Listen to this episode to learn more.

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I was scared to change anything. Working in an office, having a salary, being an employer was all I knew. It was my comfort zone, even though I didn’t like it I missed the confidence and the courage to change anything. But when I looked to the future I cringed. Was it all that was waiting out for me?

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I started to seriously doubt my life. No traveling? No helping women and children? But working even more hours, Saturdays AND Sundays? Spending my life in the office preparing tax returns? No way! I must find a new job, I decided. And I started to look for one immediately.

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This was the beginning of my new and exciting life. This was finally it! Wasn’t it great?

NO! To be honest, I was losing it.

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Building confidence doesn’t have a finish line.

It’s not like one day you will wake up confident and that’s it. You don’t have to work on your confidence anymore. Getting out of your comfort zone needs confidence and our comfort zone will always have boundaries. Trying something new will always stretch our comfort zone and require a high dose of confidence.

 

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Episode 1: How My Confidence Dropped to Zero

By |2019-07-16T17:53:09+02:00July 6th, 2019|PODCAST|

 

Although I don’t know where you are in your life at the moment, I know how hard it is to come out of your own shell. If you believe that the world is a scary place you usually don’t walk around with jaw-dropping confidence, but you are shy and watchful.

At least I was.

I used to be the shy girl, with low self-esteem, zero confidence that was either scared, depressed or anxious. Although I didn’t realize it back then, this is how I define my past self now. That was my normal. But then, there were situations that went below normal. Let me tell you a story about one of them.

In this very first podcast episode of the Confident Women Secrets I want to share with you how my confidence dropped to zero, the reasons why I got there, how did I feel and how did I finally get out of there.

I hope that no matter where you are in your life right now you will learn that you have the power to change almost everything in your life. And you will discover with me that confidence is the single most important skill a woman needs.

So, listen to the first episode and let’s build our confidence together!

 

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Lying in my bed for another three days I was thinking about it. And I had this talk with myself – OK Silvia, you are lying here in bed at your parent’s house, you own nothing, you have no job, no life. If you continue this way you will have no friends. What is there to lose?

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You will experience it in your life in a form of constant struggle with fear.

Is there a cure for it? – I asked.

I’m afraid it is not. -he answered. – You need to learn to live with it.

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OH, big light bulb moment.

There really must be a reason why you are going through what you are going through. There is some reason.

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You know, I learned one thing. Confident woman is capable of anything.

Confidence is the single most important skill a woman needs to be happy and to succeed. Confidence is something I wish I had much earlier.

 

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