Some days are harder than others. Some days you wish you could gain that extra inner strength you are lacking.
I have those days as well. Last Monday, it was a very hard day at work. People were driving me crazy. Many people weren’t keeping the deadlines and as I relied on their data I became behind the deadline as well. Not my fault. Yet, I hate being behind so I was getting crazy.
After work, I met a friend. I thought I will finally have some rest and will talk a bit about my work troubles and after that, we will have some laugh and I will forget about. However, my friend decided he wants to complain about his horrible boss who doesn’t want to give him a raise. I was trying to pay attention the whole time and suggest some ideas. I thought to myself that I just need to gain some inner strength and carry on.
After an hour and a half my friend said he needs to go home soon, but he still has about 10 minutes and he was talking a lot so I should say what’s new in my life.
In 10 minutes? Like, come on!
I just said I’m fine, nothing new in my life and we went home. I was exhausted already when I got home but then I remembered I wanted to write an article for my website.
I crushed into the bed and nothing would get me out. Even though I knew that writing was probably the most important thing for me that day. But I had no inner strength left.
Because of doing everything for others I ended up doing nothing for myself.
Have you ever made such a huge mistake?
Many times, you say? In that case, you might find useful following steps to not repeat this mistake over and over again.
1. Socialize with the Right People
It’s not a surprise that we are becoming negativists when we hang out with negative people. Negativism itself deplete our inner strength. In order to thrive, it is important you hang out with positive and productive people. People who will recharge your batteries, support you and inspire you.
2. Take Control of Your Body
I have already said this multiple times but there’s no strong soul in a weak body. Your physical and mental strength goes hand in hand. You can’t have one without the other.
3. Make Time for Calming Down
This is a biggie as well. Try yoga. Try meditation. Try running. Try anything that will make you shake off the worries, the bad emotions of the day, the negative thoughts, the fears, the self-doubt. I don’t say meditate if you don’t feel like that’s your thing. Just try something that will lighten your day.
4. Put Yourself First
It’s much easier said than done. But the rule is simple. Exercise when you need to exercise. Go to sleep when you need some rest. Take a break when you need one. Go out with friends when you feel like it. Stay at home when you want to be alone. Just do it because you want to do it. Not because you have a feeling that you should be doing something. Or because your mum says you should be doing something (which very often the same thing).
5. Find Your Why
If you have been on this site for a while you probably already know that I’m all about finding your why – finding your meaning in life. Finding and doing what you love. That makes life much easier and eliminate the frustration from day to day stereotype. It’s much easier to do something (even if you don’t like it) when you know what is the bigger why behind all this. When you know the goal you want to accomplish.
6. Don’t Let Fear Get in Your Way
Fear can be such a huge enemy of progress. As Tim Ferriss has said – most people would choose unhappiness over uncertainty. Uncertainty is simply the fear of what is coming. Fear can block you and stop you from doing anything. Therefore, it is important to identify and name your fears. Inner strength is not about being fearless. It’s about knowing what your fears are and doing what you want to do despite these fears.
7. Don’t Let Yourself Be in Your Way as Well
Another big enemy of your progress and happiness other than fear is you. The negative self-talk. The self-doubt. Emotional eating habits. Low self-esteem. It’s pulling you away from your desired destination. Take it easy. Don’t do yourself what you wouldn’t do to your best friend. Be yourself a best friend. Think positively and don’t be hard on yourself.
8. Find Motivation
Whether it is a motivational talk watched in the morning. Whether it is a person who you admire. Whether it is a public figure that inspires you. Whether it is your bigger why. Always search for something that motives you. There’s no drive without motivation. There are no results without the drive.
9. Remember the Good
Memorize, save, hang positive sentences about yourself, memories, the things you are proud of. Put on a sticky note and put in on your bathroom window, on your fridge. Set a reminder telling you-you are awesome. Surround yourself with the positive thoughts and send that little voice that is telling you that you are not enough to hell.
I hope this help. Do you remember a situation you felt like you have no inner strength at all? And how did you recharge your batteries?